EQ Delivers Your IQ

How are you?
Are you getting enough sleep or sleeping all the time?
You eating enough, not enough, too much?
How's your stress level? Are you feeling optimistic? Or the opposite?
I watched the sunrise the other morning and asked myself those questions. I found I could not answer them. And I can't be alone in that. We're caught in the continuum between what was and what will be, and it's dizzying. We're all in, all the time."
These are not my words, but they could have been. Food writer, Sam Sifton, wrote them in his New York Times Cooking blog during COVID. Whatever our line of work, we are all experiencing  universal shifts.

Post-COVID, we’re (still) ALL IN, all the time.

Unsettled, uneasy, uncertain, hopeful and determined is how I hear clients defining this process of defining culture in the new normal.

It's a lot of emotions to hold all at once.

Emotions are Data, Not Directives

I love this simple reminder from Susan David, Harvard psychologist and author of Emotional Agility.

"We tend to react to our unpleasant emotions as if they were taboo - something we need to push back to a great distance. Yet it is so freeing when we realize it's all good information - the pleasant and unpleasant. Because we don't need to become the emotion, but rather instead use it as vital information for problem-solving and self-care."

In fact, when we don't make generous room for the complexity of our emotions, we risk tipping toward toxic positivity, and that will only increase our exhaustion.

Same thing when we say: Everything is fine. It's okay NOT to be fine, and in fact, there is likely valuable emotional data to explore regarding what we want to be different.

Connect Then Lead

Here's a wonderful sketch note taken from the Harvard Business Review article Connect, Then Lead. It succinctly captures why we won't be effective leaders if we are not able to stay present in our emotional life.

 

Think of It This Way

💡 Your EQ is your delivery system.
💡 Your EQ delivers your IQ skills, knowledge and competence.
💡 If your EQ is underdeveloped, you are not delivering up to your value.

 

So who on your team needs to know that ALL IN, including ALL EMOTIONS, is the most effective way to move forward together?

 

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